The Sexuality Topic/Poll

[News Bot]

[Mr. Spencer]

And once we hit the religious angle, we rapidly descend into the bowels of retardation and opinion.

[Xander Ashford]

I am impressed to see a lot of people on here actually believe that homosexuality is something a person is born with rather than a choice. So many of the religious zealots believe a homosexual choices to be "an abomination in the eyes of God," but let's actually ask ourselves: What person would choose this lifestyle? What person wants to be socially stigmatized on a daily basis and told what they feel is right is actually wrong? I don't think anyone would intentionally choose a life as a gay or lesbian because it seems that everyone wants to be accepted by others in some way. I live in the Southern United States, and I know that not everywhere is so narrow-minded as where I live, but I just don't understand why anyone would choose that lifestyle to be hated and ridiculed.

I've had a few homosexual friends who have also wished that they couldn't be homosexual. To me, that definitely shows that you can't choose it anymore than you can choose eye color or skin color. I imagine it is painful seeing your friends go off living a cookie-cutter life (wife/husband, house, children, et cetera), and realizing that you will never have that completely. The argument being that you could adopt a child, but how do you think that feels realizing your DNA, your lineage will not be passed on?

Which leads me into another point: Homosexuality and Suicide. I find suicide a naturally fascinating topic because it basically shows a person at their breaking point. What caused this ordinary, seemingly happy person to just end everything? There is a high correlation between suicide and homosexuality in males. I remember magazine after magazine a few months back dealing with articles on homosexuality and suicide among males ages 18-24. This is apparently the bracket with the highest suicide rate. It seems to be the time in their lives when it clicks "I'm gay..." and some just don't know how to handle that. They realize things will never be normal, and that they are not the image their parents want (Or so they think).

I just wish society would learn to not be so ignorant to something that cannot be changed. It is not a "sin" and it is not unnatural. I remember reading an article that a college sophomore jumped off a bridge because his roommate had a hidden camera in the room while the boy was making out with another boy. He then proceeded to post on Facebook about how gay his roommate was and offered friends to come watch. Unnatural cruelty.

I think the simple phrase "treat others as you want to be treated" regardless of their race, creed, nationally, sexual orientation, et cetera should be applied to here. You treat someone how you would want to be treated. End of story.

Asexual.

Yes, I see some women can be attractive, I have no desires to go courting. The number of women I've actually been interested in could be counted on less than half a hand, and they turned out to be only interested in women. I have no sexual interests in men either. Its more than likely you are born with your tendancies, especially as nature likes to try random stuff out and see what fits. The more humans there are, the more of the non-standard base template appears, and there's nothing wrong with it. If you're happy and not hurting anyone, then why is it a problem?

I think I most identify as an asexual too; I've never really been interested in either sex on a normal basis. There was a girl in college that I really lost my mind over, but I never truly understood if that was love/attraction or if I just really had a lot of fun with her and wanted her to be in my life more.

I see love as fluid; you take it as it comes. And sometimes it doesn't come in the package you expect it to. Just keep an open mind.

[Mr. Spencer]

A topic like this has existed before and was promptly shut down not long after my involvement.

It is a moot topic of no relevance or importance. Someone's sexuality is not the business of anyone.

[Darkmoon]

To each there own opinion...which we shall each respect even if we disagree. Unless it's something dumb, like Hilter was awesome.

[kevstah2004]

All religious text is bs imo your already in hell you go to heaven when you die and your memory lives on to influence the next generation to not make the same mistakes of hatred towards one another, it's called education not religion

[PracticalAl]

PracticalAI, you have really good respectable rules that some ignorant Christians need to actually think about instead of preaching hate and pointing fingers.

Thanks, Gradon. I would hope more Christians would actually read their Bibles too! Their lies and hatred not only hurt the people they are judging, but the other Christians who get generalized into the same group as them. What a mess!

[Gradon]

PracticalAI, you have really good respectable rules that some ignorant Christians need to actually think about instead of preaching hate and pointing fingers.

Personally, I'm gay, and why am I? Because I believe that I am.
When I was growing up, I always had that incling that I was, that I already knew, it wasn't around about until I was 9 or 10 that I actually thought, I'm gay.
Yes, you may say that is VERY young for that understanding, but, I am right, and I have been since. I've never had the urge to be with a girl or kiss a girl, etc etc.
It's always been natural for me to just like guys, and I'm happy now with an amazing boyfriend, everything feels natural. Not 'gay', not 'straight', but just natural.

There's my story anyway, I always find these interesting haha. Sexuality is an interesting subject to get into, but I don't think anyone even knows why we like what we like and who we like.
That's just life though, isn't it?

[PracticalAl]

Truth is, we have no idea the why behind it's supposed to be a sin, only best guesses which usually don't work very well. So if it is a sin? Fine. You're allowed to sin, it's your choice. That's between you and God. Resolve it when you die. It does help that I don't believe in hell, of course.

Leviticus 18:22 -'You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.'

Speaking from a Biblical standpoint: The Bible condemns homosexuality as a sin because it is an abomination to the divine partnership of man and woman. God created two different sexes for a reason. Each gender compliments the other, not only physically but mentally. Woman was made to be a suitable partner for man and vice versa:

Genesis 2:18 ¶ Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."

I look at it this way. If we don't put a sort restriction or guideline on 'love', where does it stop? If 'All love is love' as many people like to believe nowadays, then does that make incest okay? Does it make bestiality, pedophilia, necrophilia, rape and orgies okay too? When you have that mentality of 'All love is love" it makes all those things above okay as well. That is why we need to draw the line somewhere, and thankfully God tells us where to do it. The fact alone that man and woman have complimentary physical and mental attributes should be enough to tell us that sexual love is only meant to be between them.

Now this is by no means a condemnation on the people who practice those things above but rather, a condemnation on the practice itself. God NEVER, EVER tells us to judge or condemn anyone. We are to hate the sin, not the sinner. Remember, we are all sinners and always will be!

Romans 3:10 "There is none righteous, NOT EVEN ONE."
Matthew 7:1 "Do not judge so that you will not be judged."

A lot of asshole Christians will judge homosexuality and even go as far as to say that they will go to hell because of it! That is absolutely wrong, there is nowhere in the Bible that says homosexuals go to hell, or any sin for that matter! The only sin that causes you to go to hell is the unbelief of Jesus Christ as your Savior.

John 6:47 "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who believes has eternal life."

Just my viewpoint using a Biblical perspective.

[Enrico Marini]

Asexual.

Yes, I see some women can be attractive, I have no desires to go courting. The number of women I've actually been interested in could be counted on less than half a hand, and they turned out to be only interested in women. I have no sexual interests in men either. Its more than likely you are born with your tendancies, especially as nature likes to try random stuff out and see what fits. The more humans there are, the more of the non-standard base template appears, and there's nothing wrong with it. If you're happy and not hurting anyone, then why is it a problem?

[REmaster]

Yes please!


I'm mostly straight, but that's not to say I wouldn't play for the other team - albeit for a select few(Brad Pitt, Gary Oldman, Trent Reznor)or someone that would obviously have to be very special to me. I also believe your born with gay/bisexual tendencies, I've felt a little different since I was a kid in that department as far as not really caring about what I'm supposed to like and what I'm not. Some people's brains are just wired differently. What taste good to some people taste like shit to the next, what turns on one person makes the next person cringe.

Just because I haven't had sex with a man doesn't mean I haven't thought about it, who hasn't? Even if the very thought disgusts you, you still thought about it. Well, I'm going to go ahead and label myself as bi, even though I've never been with a guy nor do I find most men attractive.

I can see how one could be attracted to the opposite sex and I won't rule it out for my future. I've always tried to live my life to the creed, of doing whatever makes me happy regardless of what others think. Life is too short to worry about judgement, in this one or the afterlife.

As Spike Spiegel once said, "What ever happens, happens.'

[kevstah2004]

Straight.

I don't have any issues at all with homosexual people. If that's your thing and makes you happy go for it!

Same, I do chuckle when gays ponce about infront of your face though, i've never seen a woman act like at all so I don't know why they have to, I swear Louie Spence goes around with a vibrator shoved up his arse all day

[Smiley]

Bisexual. Yeah, I swing every way. I have no idea why I am the way I am. I've never been especially physically attracted to people - looks have just never registered for me. Which isn't to say I don't appreciate physical attractiveness - I do, and I find my wife sexy as hell. But looks are quite a way down the list of what I look for in people, with personality being so much higher that appearances are a complete non-issue for me.

I know several gay or bi folks, and obviously have no issues with them (bar one militantly gay woman who thinks bisexual is just dabbling), my parents have no issue with me (they thought I was gay when I was teenager because I didn't show any interest in ogling things) and as long as I'm not suck copious quantities of cock now my wife is fine with it too. She knows I'm not going to go cheat on her with a guy anymore than I would a woman.

And, yeah, the whole, 'You enjoy the love God gave you, go burn in hell!' thing makes me chuckle. I've heard all the reasons for it...it's unnatural, beastly, whatever. It's a test to make us prove our devotion. All comes off as hollow. If it's a test, why do only some people have to suffer there whole lives? It's more natural to have sex with another person of the same gender than it is to fly in a device seven thousand feet in the air using invisible waves to communicate with people on the other side of the globe, too. I don't see most people declaring air travel and cell phones abominations.

Truth is, we have no idea the why behind it's supposed to be a sin, only best guesses which usually don't work very well. So if it is a sin? Fine. You're allowed to sin, it's your choice. That's between you and God. Resolve it when you die. It does help that I don't believe in hell, of course.

I always have to reiterate this from past sexuality topics, but.....

Gay people don't just sit at home decked out in their robe drinking semen from a martini glass.

I imagine it's no different for bi's as well. That being said, I'm glad you have an open sexuality with your partner. I'm of the mind that such an equal understanding would be good for children as they grow up and learn what kind of person they are. Coming from a very conservative family I can tell you that it's not easy leaving one's religion while still maintaining the moral standards you grew up with. You have to put up with people who are in denial that other people think and feel differently, and would ignore even their closest relatives or partners on the grounds that they no longer need to repress their true selves.

[Beanovsky Durst]

Straight.

I don't have any issues at all with homosexual people. If that's your thing and makes you happy go for it!

[Darkmoon]

Bisexual. Yeah, I swing every way. I have no idea why I am the way I am. I've never been especially physically attracted to people - looks have just never registered for me. Which isn't to say I don't appreciate physical attractiveness - I do, and I find my wife sexy as hell. But looks are quite a way down the list of what I look for in people, with personality being so much higher that appearances are a complete non-issue for me.

I know several gay or bi folks, and obviously have no issues with them (bar one militantly gay woman who thinks bisexual is just dabbling), my parents have no issue with me (they thought I was gay when I was teenager because I didn't show any interest in ogling things) and as long as I'm not suck copious quantities of cock now my wife is fine with it too. She knows I'm not going to go cheat on her with a guy anymore than I would a woman.

And, yeah, the whole, 'You enjoy the love God gave you, go burn in hell!' thing makes me chuckle. I've heard all the reasons for it...it's unnatural, beastly, whatever. It's a test to make us prove our devotion. All comes off as hollow. If it's a test, why do only some people have to suffer there whole lives? It's more natural to have sex with another person of the same gender than it is to fly in a device seven thousand feet in the air using invisible waves to communicate with people on the other side of the globe, too. I don't see most people declaring air travel and cell phones abominations.

Truth is, we have no idea the why behind it's supposed to be a sin, only best guesses which usually don't work very well. So if it is a sin? Fine. You're allowed to sin, it's your choice. That's between you and God. Resolve it when you die. It does help that I don't believe in hell, of course.